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Destyn Land

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I always thought something ​was wrong with me.

I grew up in Saint Paul, MN, in the historically Black Rondo ​neighborhood. From a young age, I always felt different. Unlike ​many of the boys, I didn't enjoy rough play; instead, I preferred ​watching movies with the Olsen twins or reading Teen magazine.


I thought I would eventually "grow" into more traditionally ​masculine interests, but that never happened. I felt like an ​anomaly, and over time, shame became a significant part of my ​identity.

How it all began...

During my senior year of college, I stumbled across ​the TED Talk "A Call to Men" by Tony Porter. After ​watching this video, I realized that there was nothing ​wrong with me; rather, it was the confines of ​masculinity that had led me to believe otherwise.

I went on to graduate school to study Youth ​Development Leadership, where I began asking ​questions about how Black boys' understanding of ​masculinity impacts their health and well-being. In ​2020, for a course taught by Dr. Marek C. Oziewicz, I ​developed the "Rethinking Black Boyhood" YouTube ​series, which deepened my interest in the topic of ​masculinity.

A Conversation with Black Men on ​Masculinity

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Project Cover Art (2020)

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Why We Must Rethink ​Manhood

After graduating from the University of Minnesota ​with my Master of Education, I realized it was ​essential to keep the conversation going. Although ​I had completed my degree, I felt like I was just ​getting started. In 2021, I launched the podcast ​"Rethinking Manhood," which is now heard in ​over 60 countries and 600 cities.

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This was the 1st cover art I had ​for the podcast!

Destyn Land

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