THE RULES
WE LIVE BY
THE RULES
WE LIVE BY
In this timely book, podcast host and scholar Destyn Land examines the nature of ‘masculinity’
and the lessons we are taught as children which carry into our adult lives. Through recollections
from his own life, Destyn challenges readers to unpack the cultural norms which we have
absorbed and accept the parts of us which may not fit within a traditional picture of the ideal
masculine figure.
With topics ranging from anger to accountability, dealing with trauma, and the vulnerabilities of
true friendship, Land draws on his experience as an educator and as a Black man with a Christian
upbringing to lead readers on a reflective journey of their own.
Each section is followed by a devotional study to aid in challenging what we have been taught,
and a question to prompt a moment of pause.
“Thank you, Destyn, for penning what I believe will be the catalyst for the freedom and self-
discovery of many.”
- Terrance McQueen, MDiv, Yale Divinity School
SETH MCMANUS
“A Treasure to Behold”
“This book is a treasure to behold. It’s inspiring, challenging, emotional, and insightful. Regardless of gender, the stories and insights in this book are essential for everyone, especially in this cultural moment. Destyn’s insights and journey with masculinity outlined in this book are both a powerful mirror to the lives of men and masculine folks, and an invitation to healing and safety for women and anyone harmed by patriarchy.
Destyn’s vulnerability is hyper-specific to his own journey while simultaneously being universally valuable to anyone who takes the time to read. This book ought to be savored, consumed, explored, and shared. It explores Christianity and integrates faith meaningfully but offers value and wisdom to anyone regardless of their faith background. I couldn’t recommend this book highly enough to anyone. You will find value here, you will be challenged, and you will be changed.”
If you loved the book, I would be thrilled to come and engage with your group! I can facilitate a discussion about the book, host a Q&A session, deliver a lecture on patriarchal masculinity, or conduct a workshop based on the book's prompts.
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